How to use this parent guide

  •  Read the verses each week so you are prepared to discuss with your student.
  • Let them know you are using the parent guide so they don’t think you are spying on them or can read their mind!
  • Discuss the big questions for the week. Don’t try to have all the answers. These questions are not easy. In fact, they were so difficult that Jesus used parables (fictional stories that help teach lessons) to try and help adults understand them. It’s ok to say, “I don’t know, but I’d love to explore the question together.”

So, what is God's design for sex?

Week 4, March 5th: God's Design For Sex.

Big Idea: God Has a Design for Sex

Verses: 2 Samuel 11:1-27

Summary: Sex is a part of God’s design for marriage. It was meant to be a reflection of God’s love for us, but it is clear throughout the Bible that it is one of the most common things we tend to mess up. There are many reasons this is the case, but it would not be helpful if we didn’t learn from those mistakes to understand the good intentions God had when he thought up sex. Sex, at its worst, has the potential to destroy the relationships we have with God, others, and even ourselves. However, at its best it has the potential to bring us closer than we thought possible to those nearest to us, and it reveals the deep love God has for each of us. It is also important to note that even though people like David got sex wrong, God never abandoned them, and was always there to guide them back to him, and toward restoration. Sex also isn’t the total focus of this passage, but it was the expressive culmination of a progression of poor decisions that led David awry. Sex is not the root of David’s sin, but sin is the root of David’s decisions concerning sex.

Parent & Student Discussion:

  1. Read the story of David and Bathsheba together.

  2. Take some time to discuss together some actions David could have taken to avoid the choices he made.