1. Think about your childhood.How was God’s authority over your parents present or missing in how you were parented? Share this with your group and how this may or may not have impacted your obedience as a child.


  1. Read Ephesians 6:1-4. 

    Again we are reminded that these passages are tied together and one should not be looked at without the other.

    a. Discuss the interdependent relationship between “obey your parents” and “bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord”.  

    b. The command to “Honor your mother and Father” as seen in Exodus 20 and in Ephesians 6 is the only commandment in Scripture which promises long life as a reward. (Read Jeremiah 35:18-19.)

    c. The Greek word for honor means “to revere, prize, value” Discuss some ways you (or a child) can honor your parents. (Keep in mind that this may not be an easy question to answer if your parents have not lived or acted under the authority of God.)
  2. Read Ephesians 6:4.

    a.   What does it look like to exercise our authority / obedience under God’s rule?

    b.    Jim talks about how modern western culture tells us and models an expectation that we should have absolute individual authority. What Scripture tells us is we must lean into God’s authority that has been given to our parents. Where do you see culture making it hard for a Christian parent to have authority over their child?

  3. A couple of weeks ago, reGROUP Director Kailey Newkirk mentioned in her sermon that one of the reasons why Paul wants us to live into our calling is because, “People are watching our lives, and making decisions about God."

    a. How does a parent’s example impact their kid’s view of God? Can you share experiences with the group from your own life of how a parent’s example helped to shape a child’s view of God?

    b. How does the relationship between children and parents potentially impact people’s view of God who are outside the church?  

Next Steps

This week consider how you can invest in children and can be an authority in their life that models what it looks like to lead under God’s authority. As Jim mentioned in his video, children are a full part of God’s plan right now—that status does not wait for a later date.

You can start in your home, in your neighborhood, or by helping the children here at Summit know they matter to God. Invest in the students of our middle and high school ministries, Surge and Edge, by helping them to understand they are part of God’s plan. There is a great and important need in our church right now for people willing to lead in student ministries and pour into the lives of the students growing up at Summit. Please email our Family Ministry Director Tracy Beeson at Start asking questions to see what God would do in and through you by serving in this capacity.